How do you know when your marriage is save-able?
You have been fighting constantly lately. It feels like there is tension in your house every second. No matter what you do, it seems like you aren't getting it right. It's ice-cold between you two. Whenever you try to talk, it feels so frustrating that you give up. You know what it means to "see red," you've been there before. You can't believe your relationship is like this now. You've been trying to fix things but it's so complicated, you aren't sure it's fixable at this point.
How did you get here? Where did it all go wrong? Are we able to save this marriage or should we end it?
These are questions I help couples answer. When it feels like everything is so tangled, the fights are never ending, the tension is unbearable and as a couple, you are stuck in the same place, going over the same things again and again with no resolutions, it can feel pretty hopeless.
You ask yourself everyday if there is a way to save this marriage. You ask yourself "how do I know if this marriage isn't save-able?" "How do I know if we can't fix it?" "How do I know if we need to just get divorced?"
Through Discernment Counseling, I help couples find clarity. In a two hour session, we sort it all out. I help them remember what their relationship used to be like, find where it went wrong and point out the patterns that are keeping them stuck. We examine each person's role in the relationship and areas that need to change. Most importantly, we highlight the possibilities within the relationship. We answer the question that needs answering "is this marriage save-able?"
This process gives a couple a clear road-map on how to move forward. It untangles the mess and gives them hope for the future. If they choose to stay together, they are able to move on to couples counseling with a clear idea of exactly what needs to change in the relationship.
If you are interested in learning more about this special process couples counseling that is giving couples clarity in their relationship, please contact me or read my website to learn more. Also, please know there is someone here that understands the pain and confusion relationship issues cause and is rooting for you to find peace and happiness. Please reach out.
Corrin Voeller is a relationship therapist in St. Louis Park, Minnesota. She does in-person and online counseling and coaching with couples and individuals to improve the relationships in their lives. She lives with her husband, children, and extremely fat dog.
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