At first, they couldn’t get enough.
Mark* and Diane* had been together for six years. At first, they couldn’t keep their hands off each other.
When apart, they counted the minutes until they could be together again – an irresistible spark having created passionate, electric energy between them.
It was exquisite. Having both exited relationships fraught with bland or inconsistent sex, they found the perfect match in each other. Desire was Power. Spontaneity. Synchronicity. They read each other effortlessly, and the results? Spectacular.
So, what the hell happened?
Six years later, they could count the times they’d had sex on one hand. They were always out of sync – never interested at the same time.
Mark always felt the sting of rejection. Meanwhile, Diane felt pressured to perform. Forget trying to talk about things – arguments were the only fireworks left.
Strangely enough, they both agreed they wanted more. And they both agreed they wanted sex to be better.
So why couldn’t they get there?
Why wasn’t anything working?
It feels like they’d tried everything.
Diane looked up different strategies online, but they almost always preached the same tired lines.
Plan date nights: of course. They’d done that.
Schedule sex: neither wanted that. Goodbye, fun and spontaneity.
Try role-playing: Diane couldn’t even imagine going there.
Where was the good advice?!
Both frustrated, both wanting the same thing, both struggling to understand what was getting in the way, they gave couples counseling a try.
Though both were nervous talking to a stranger about this intimate problem, they felt tremendous immediate relief in finally getting it out there and discovering that theirs was a very common, normal situation for most couples.
At last, they realized they didn’t need to feel ashamed about sex. More importantly, they felt hope – that they could find a solution to their problems and find their way back to each other again.
Reigniting the Spark
They started attending therapy weekly and learned more than they thought was possible. Why was nobody else talking about sex in this way?!
Mark and Diane began to realize the information and messaging they’d gotten from everywhere else had been entirely misleading.
Knowledgeable, empowered, and stronger, they both reported a higher sense of self-esteem and a significant impact on their sex life as a couple.
And about those fireworks – they’re back in the bedroom, where they belong!
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*Names have been changed to maintain confidentiality.